She’s Pregnant, Now What?
She Needs You to be Supportive and Listen
What You Should Do
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Listen to her. She will want to talk about what she is feeling.
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Remain calm. Even if you’re scared, offer your support at all times.
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Share your feelings. It’s okay to express your emotions.
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Gather all the facts. You both have options for the future.
What Not To Do
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Don’t take off. If you disappear, she is going to feel abandoned and alone.
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Avoid pressuring her. Whatever decision is made, you need to make it together.
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Don’t forget that you are an equal part of this situation.
Discuss Options
She has three options available to her:
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Parenting (Single Parenting; Co-Parenting; Married Parenting)
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Adoption
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Abortion
We are here to answer your questions and help guide you while making tough decisions.
If you are a birthfather or expectant father, Caring Hearts PRC can help you, too. We have Practical Fatherhood classes available. We can also help you provide basic needs for your child whether or not you have custody.
As a birthfather, you do have rights related to adoption. State laws determine your options for providing input into the adoption and you must be notified. If you do not support her choice for adoption, you have a long-term legal responsibility to support your child. If you are no longer in a relationship with the birthmom and she is making an adoption plan, her adoption counselor will contact you about terminating your parenting rights.
Caring Hearts Pregnancy Resource Center does not provide adoption services but we have referrals available to local adoption agencies.
It’s hard to believe, but you don’t have any legal rights when it comes to your baby being aborted. It is the mother’s decision. But, you can make a difference in her decision by your attitude. If you are there for her emotionally and are supportive, she may be more willing to explore other options.
